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    • How to Balance Solitude and a Social Life: A Dual Guide for Introverts & Extroverts

      Merry
      ,

      Toeing the line between introversion and extroversion.

      I love spending time alone. I need it. If I go too long without having some dedicated alone time with my thoughts, I notice I tend to get a little grouchy. (My family probably notices it, too.) 

      The same goes for reading time. Ideally, I read every single day, but sometimes life gets in the way. Still, if about three days pass without me getting a little sit-and-stare1 time to block out the world and do some deep-thinking, I become restless, irritable, and frustrated. 

      But the same goes in the other direction, too. 

      Like most people, if I spend too much time stuck in my own head (or my own apartment (WFH people get it)), then I’ll probably go a little nuts. And by a little nuts, I mean: get depressed. 

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      Too much of a good thing: We need alone time AND time to be social

      For most people, we tend to do too much of one or the other—and it’s easy to get stuck in old habits. 

      If you’re more introverted, that might mean letting several days pass without ever emerging from your shell long enough to actually see sunlight or meet a friend.

      If you’re more extroverted, that might mean running on a constant treadmill of social activity and forgetting to take a moment to do the scary thing—that is, be totally alone with your thoughts.

      Which one are you? 

      How to find the balance between solitude and a social life

      It really doesn’t matter if you’re more introverted or extroverted. The important thing is finding a healthy balance between the two. 

      That’s what Loner Living is all about: balancing solitude and a social life so you can be at peace whether you’re in a room full of people or all alone.

      With no authority, professional training, or business telling other people what to do, these are my two cents on how to balance solitude and a social life so you can get the best of both worlds:

      For introverts: 3 easy ways to socialize without giving up your alone time

      If too many social engagements feels like a big drain on your social battery, go easy on y