How to Enjoy Your Own Company

Merry October 14, 2025

Do you like being with yourself?

Spending time alone doesn’t usually sound idyllic. Single women are often cast as unfortunate spinsters. Reserving a table for one is a famously embarrassing cliché. From single prom nights to flying solo at weddings to loner Valentine’s Day celebrations, having the guts to go it alone instead of relying on the comfortable, however mediocre, presence of a date is often frowned upon (or at least considered lame).

What gives? Why is doing things alone so widely considered scary, nerve-wracking, and judgment-inducing? 

Societal expectations are a big factor. Young people without a lot of friends are “weird,” and as one approaches the big 30, the pressure is on to find your soulmate. Biology is another factor. Humans are social creatures, and no matter how independent one is, it’s perfectly natural and normal to want to be included, invited, and liked. 

But I contend that a big part of the fear, anxiety, and judgment that come with being alone stem from the fact that too many of us don’t really know ourselves all that well. 

We might know what kind of friend we are (or want to be). The funny one. The bold one. The empathetic one. What kind of co-worker we are. The creative one. The one who gives kick-ass presentations. The lord or lady of spreadsheets. And though it’s often an internal battle, we have ideas (usually, too many) about who we are (and are trying to be) as lovers, partners, daughters, brothers, fathers, aunts. 

But who are you when you aren’t any of these things? Who are you when you are just you, alone with yourself, separate from any titles, tasks, or relationships? 

Do you like being with yourself? 

Sometimes, that answer is an easy yes. “Yes, I’m funny, smart, and I know I’m pretty cute.” But depending on what the mirror, the meanies, and our internal haters have reported that day, coming up with a comfortable, sunny answer to that question isn’t always a given—especially for the young’uns. 

Per a 2021 report from YouGov on how Americans perceive themselves, almost one-quarter (24%) of Americans under 35 “say they don’t like themselves most or all of the time.” (On average, 14% of US adults (aged 18+) had the same sentiment.)

As sad as that statistic is, I don’t believe it’s static. Like that weird friend you didn’t click with at first but now love, sometimes it takes time to love yourself. Learning to enjoy your own company can help you get there. 

The shortlist: Enjoy my own company? The why & how

5 reasons why it’s important to learn to enjoy your own company

4 tips on how to enjoy your own company

5 “enjoy your own company” quotes to remind you why it’s worth it

More articles on the loner mindset:

How to Get Better at Doing Things Alone

Living Alone as a Woman: Why Every Woman Should Live Alone at Least Once

7 Books on Self-Awareness to Become a Better Person

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    Why is learning to enjoy your own company important?

    There’s not a lot of time or care dedicated to learning how to spend time with yourself in a healthy way. In fact, when we talk about me time, these days, it usually coincides with the term “bed rotting,” which I think we can all agree doesn’t sound great for the brain or the body. 

    But alone time can be so much more than lazy hours spent doom-scrolling or binge-watching. When we take just the tiniest bit of effort to explore healthier, more positive ways to spend time with ourselves, we can become happier, more confident, and more creative. 

    These are five ways learning how to enjoy your own company can change your life for the better:

    1. Create a foundation for happiness (no matter where you are or who you’re with)

    I’ve said it many times before, and I’ll say it again: Once you can be happy by yourself, you can do anything. 

    Apparently, my homespun wisdom has good company. As former law professor and ethics lecturer Michael Josephson echoes: “If you want to be happy, learn to be alone without being lonely. Learn that being alone does not mean being unhappy.” 

    Friends and family are great (even friendly strangers), but when we lean on the presence of others to feel at ease, we’re building our mental health on some pretty shaky ground.

    Of course, happiness can come from love, friendship, and camaraderie, but I believe the best relationships are built on a foundation of self-respect and internal peace. When you can comfortably enjoy your own company, the relationships you seek out will be those that uplift and nourish you—not unworthy (or potentially damaging) placeholders you rush to just to avoid being alone with yourself.

    2. Give your mental health a boost

    Remember that YouGov says 14% of US adults “don’t like themselves most or all of the time”? Learning how to enjoy your own company may be a shortcut (or at least one path) to building self-esteem, confidence, and self-respect. 

    Consider this academic review from Family Perspectives on the impact of spending time alone on young adults’ mental health, where a Brigham Young University Scholar concludes that “purposefully spending time alone with the intention of self-care can lead to mental health benefits for emerging adults.” 

    What’s important to note is that you can’t get those purported mental health benefits if you spend time alone with the intention of avoiding others—actually, that usually backfires and ends up leading to increased anxiety and/or depression.

    Instead, the idea is to “purposefully spend time alone” with a focus on self-care and self-reflection. And spoiler: “purposefully” spending time alone means no social media.

    At a loss for what to do instead of social media? 

    Whether you want to replace scrolling during your commute, before bed, or anywhere else it’s sucking the life out of your day, I’ve got 34 easy ideas for replacements for you here: What To Do Instead of Social Media.

    3. Build self-confidence and independence

    Think about some of the scarier or more challenging things you’ve done in your life. Maybe it was starting over and moving to a new city or traveling alone for the first time. 

    At first, taking on these feats by yourself is daunting. You’d most certainly rather have a friend by your side. But once you get over your initial apprehensions and just start doing the damn thing, you realize it wasn’t so scary after all—and you’re capable of a lot more than you’d realized. 

    That is the power you can find in your own company. 

    As Paul Newman, American actor, philanthropist, and, among many other things, the guy likely on your salad dressing bottle, has said: “You only grow when you are alone.” 

    The more comfortable you get in your own company, the more comfortable and confident you’ll feel trying new things—no social security blanket needed.

    4. Learn who are you (without anybody else's influence getting in the way)

    Every day, every hour, it feels like we are fighting a battle to guard our attention. And often, we are losing.

    Ads. Notifications. Blaring background music. Small talk. These are all distractions that not only disrupt our natural thinking and reflections but influence it—and other people are no exception. 

    Yes, of course, conversing with others (especially those from whom we differ) is important to expand our horizons, appreciate new perspectives, and generally discover what is, for us, the unknown. But for a more critical reflection on novel ideas, it helps to first have a firm grasp on the known, i.e., to understand who you are and what you think without anyone else’s opinion influencing you.

    For example, that new song making the rounds on Spotify? Do you really find it annoying? Or did a friend say that and now you can’t stop yourself from thoughtlessly agreeing? 

    As Paulo Coelho, Brazilian novelist and lyricist said, “If you are never alone, you cannot know yourself.” 

    In this way, learning how to enjoy your own company is also a daring act in learning to think for yourself.

    5. Give yourself space to think deeply and create

    For me, this is the most important reason to learn to enjoy your own company: creativity. Because if you’re constantly talking to someone else, where is the room to think and create? 

    Again, I’ll acknowledge: It’s abundantly clear that collaboration plays an important role in creativity, creating opportunities for revelations and inspiration to emerge. But to think, to muse, to write, to read, to paint—to draw from our inner world and create something heretofore unseen, that requires a bit of silence, a bit of space, and a bit of solitude. 

    None other than Pablo Picasso, the Spanish painter who needs no introduction, supported this point: “Without great solitude, no serious work is possible.”

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      4 ways to learn how to enjoy your own company

      Sometimes, alone time comes naturally. Like children, we need nothing but our imaginations to entertain ourselves and we haven’t yet learned to feel embarrassed for being who we are. 

      Other times, spending time alone feels more like a punishment than a delicious reprieve. It’s an unsought time-out, where, deprived of our toys, we are at a loss for how to feel at ease. 

      But with practice, your own company can be a comfort—never a punishment or a second choice. For help rediscovering the joy of your own company, try these five ways to enjoy your own company:

      1. Practice spending time with yourself

      Practice makes perfect—and that goes for “me time,” too. 

      If spending the afternoon alone feels like a punishment, a bore, or an insurmountable challenge, then you just need to work on it, one step at a time. 

      I’ve designed a free 7-Day Do Things Alone Challenge that helps you learn how to do things alone—and actually enjoy it. It’s kind of like a weekly, get-to-know-yourself course. 

      Every day for seven days, I’ll email you a bite-sized challenge to try doing something new by yourself. Each activity was carefully chosen because it’s free or low budget and accessible no matter where you live. You’ll also get a daily (optional) journal prompt to help you reflect on your alone time and what you learned. 

      It’s a comfortable, nonjudgmental kick in the butt to get out there and get to know yourself.

      2. Spend time alone without distractions

      I hate to break it to you, but sitting alone and doomscrolling and/or zoning out in front of the TV is not “enjoying your own company.” 

      Remember what the academic review from Family Perspectives said? “Effective solitude excludes any other individuals and the use of social media.” 

      The screen (even worse, the screen projecting romanticized versions of strangers’ lives) is a crutch for boredom that just takes your attention away from your own thoughts and imagination. 

      So put it away. Instead, challenge yourself to find ways to actively spend time with yourself, no distractions allowed. For example, you can: 

      • Go to a museum. (When’s the last time you went to a museum, not on vacation?)
      • Take a walk and just think. No music, no podcasts, no phone calls. 
      • Sit in the park, a coffee shop, or any random spot that pleases you. Bring a journal and challenge yourself to write or sketch whatever comes to mind.

      3. Push yourself to try something new alone

      Without the security blanket of a friend at your side, you can get a new appreciation for what you’re capable of and what makes you tick. You’ll also realize you can have a fun, action-packed weekend, even if none of your friends are free.

      There are literally limitless new things to see, try, and experience. When I’m stuck on what to do, I use the corny (but useful) advice: be a tourist in your own city. 

      Some of my mainstays that don’t cost a thing are: 

      • Doing a little bookshop-hopping (and adding to my ever-growing reading list)
      • Visiting flea markets to hunt for goodies like candlesticks and teacups
      • Going for a walk and intentionally getting lost (a pretty natural occurrence for me)

      But if you’ve got a little extra cash to spend and want to treat yourself, you could:

      • Sign up for a class in art, cooking, music—whatever interests you
      • Go on a tour in your city: walking, food, wine, history, etc.
      • Book a solo ticket for a show: a concert, a play, comedic show, etc.

      4. Book a weekly date with yourself

      We all naturally grow over time, so it makes sense that your relationship with yourself should evolve, too. 

      Signing up for special activities on the weekend or doing a crash course in spending time with yourself via the 7-Day Do Things Alone Challenge are both great ways to challenge and learn more about yourself. But to really get comfortable in your own company, you need to keep exercising that muscle over time. 

      One easy way to make “me time” a regular habit is scheduling a weekly date with yourself.

      It doesn’t have to be a big deal. It doesn’t have to be a big deal. It could be as simple as giving yourself one hour before work one day per week to enjoy coffee and a book in a cutesy cafe. 

      And it doesn’t have to be expensive. If treating yourself to a solo dinner date once a week is too much, just make it one glass of wine at a new bar. Or put a leisurely stroll in the park in your weekly calendar. No headphones. No phone calls. Just you, the greenery, and whatever weather blows your way.

      Need more ideas on how to go on a date with yourself? 

      You got it. Read A Guide to Dating Yourself in 2025.

      “Enjoy your own company” quotes

      Feeling lonely? Turn to these quotes for a reminder that there is no safer, comfier, or more serene place than your own company.

      “In order to understand the world, one has to turn away from it on occasion.”

      Speaker: Albert Camus, French philosopher and writer (1913–1960)

      “What a lovely surprise to finally discover how unlonely being alone can be.”

      Speaker: Ellen Burstyn, American actress (1932–)

      “You are who you are when nobody’s watching.”

      Speaker: Stephen Fry, English actor, comedian, and broadcaster (1957–)

      “Associate yourself with people of good quality, for it is better to be alone than in bad company.”

      Speaker: Booker T. Washington, American educator and author (1890–1915)

      “Learn to enjoy your own company. You are the one person you can count on living with for the rest of your life.”

      Speaker: Ann Richards, American politician (1933–2006)

      Conclusion: The power of learning to enjoy your own company

      Despite what stereotypes may have led us to believe, spending time alone isn’t lame, awkward, or embarrassing. Actually, once you feel comfortable in your own company, it’s really a happy place where you’re free to explore, create, and adventure—untethered from other people’s judgment, influence, or opinions.

      If you’re not there yet, that’s okay. You can take it slow. Try just one solo activity first, and pay attention to how it feels to fully focus on yourself, with no distractions. 

      The best part about learning to enjoy your own company? Surgeon and author Maxwell Maltz may have said it best: “If you make friends with yourself, you’ll never be alone.”

      Next steps:

      Sign up for A Merry Loner’s 7-Day Do Things Alone Challenge. You’ll get a comfortable, week-long email series with daily, bite-sized challenges and journal prompts to help you learn how to do things alone—and actually enjoy it. 

      Pick one activity from this blog post and put it in your calendar now. Maybe that means making a reservation for a solo dinner date tomorrow night or signing up for a cooking class this weekend. Don’t procrastinate! Start taking steps to prioritize (and enjoy) your own company now. Need more ideas? Check out A Guide to Dating Yourself in 2025 for more solo date ideas.

      Give yourself a boost of courage. If spending time alone in your own company still seems weird to you, read How to Get Better at Doing Things Alone.

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      How to Enjoy Your Own Company: Common FAQs

      What does “enjoy your own company” mean?

      Enjoying your own company means feeling at ease when you’re by yourself—without needing a distraction, whether that’s other people or your phone. More than that, you can not only tolerate being alone; you actively enjoy it and don’t feel awkward or uncomfortable doing things by yourself.

      Should you enjoy your own company?

      I won’t tell you what you “should” do, but yes—it’s generally advisable to be able to enjoy your own company. Doing so means you’re not dependent on others’ invitation, recognition, or approval to feel good, nor do you need external stimulation to occupy your mind. 

      Plus, learning how to enjoy your own company is helpful in building self-awareness, independence, and self-confidence, all qualities that ultimately benefit both you and your relationships.

      How to enjoy your own company at home?

      It helps to make your home a place you want to be. And that doesn’t have to be expensive. Buy cheap-o fresh flowers from the sales rack. Ditch the wilted ones, and you’ve got a little ray of sunshine in your apartment. Light a candle. Google a new recipe and make pasta sauce from scratch. 

      I share literally 100 self-care ideas to make your home more beautiful in my Ultimate Guide to Self-Care.

      How to enjoy your own company more?

      Start small. Maybe today you enjoy a coffee in a new café—and drink it without scrolling on your phone for a distraction. You can also sign up for my FREE 7-Day Do Things Alone Challenge for a week of daily, bite-sized challenges that teach you how to do things alone and actually enjoy it.

      How to enjoy your own company without friends?

      It’s okay to go through quiet phases in your life. Nothing lasts forever, and the future always holds brighter days ahead. But if you’re feeling lonely now, you’re in the right place. A Merry Loner is dedicated to helping you learn to enjoy your own company, even when it’s hard. If you’re new, start here: How to Get Better at Doing Things Alone.

      Discover how the merry loner lifestyle makes life more enjoyable:

      LONER MINDSET: fresh perspectives on learning to genuinely enjoy your own company

      BOOKS: reading lists for people who love being alone with a good story

      ANALOG LIVING: inspiration to step back from the screen and live a life offline

      SOLO TRAVEL: guides on where to go and how to enjoy it alone

      MINDFUL CONSUMPTION: vetted recommendations for a simpler, less wasteful life

      LONER Q&As: interviews from global voices on how to live a meaningful, enjoyable life

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      Merry is the blogger behind A Merry Loner, a full-time freelance writer, and a lifelong bookworm. Since kindergarten, it was her dream to become a novelist. (She likes to think she's headed in the right direction.) Born and raised in Rhode Island, where she earned a triple-major BA in writing, communication, and French from the University of Rhode Island, she moved to Toulouse, France after the pandemic to complete a master's in creative writing at Univeristé Toulouse Jean — Jaurès. She now lives in Paris with husband.

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        Things To Do Alone in the Summer

        Maja Krasnicka August 25, 2025

        Solo summer activities you’ll love—no matter your relationship status.

        I usually spend winters hibernating. Living in the UK, where you essentially experience six to eight months of gloom every year, I find my life energy reawakens with the return of spring and summer. 

        But this summer hits differently. It’s my first-ever summer living alone. 

        Since I’m in my early thirties, many of my friends are busy with their kids and/or are away on holidays with their partners, so I’ve found myself spending a lot of time alone—but I didn’t want that to stop me from making the most of these scarce, sunny months.

        So I created a bucket list of solo summer activities. Turns out, there are plenty of things to do alone in the summer that are just as—if not more—fun to do without a partner or screaming babies in tow. 

        Are you on your own this summer? Soak up the sunny days with this guide of what to do alone in summer:

        The shortlist: 8 things to do alone in the summer

        1. Spend time in parks
        2. Attend events solo (even if it feels scary)
        3. Learn a new skill
        4. Go to galleries, museums, and exhibitions
        5. Take yourself on a solo movie or theater date
        6. Do something you’ve been putting off for a while
        7. Be a tourist in your own city
        8. Eat out alone

        More articles on the Loner Mindset:

        How to Get Better at Doing Things Alone

        Living Alone as a Woman: Why Every Woman Should Live Alone at Least Once

        No Date? No Problem—A Guide to Dating Yourself

        What is the Loner Mindset all about?

        Learning how to enjoy your own company. Because once you can be happy on your own, you can do anything.

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          Quote graphic from A Merry Loner blog featuring a woman lying in a summer wildflower meadow with text about spending time alone in early thirties and embracing solo summer experiences.

          1. Spend time in parks

          Making use of local parks or other green spaces is such a great way to enjoy the summer weather while doing other activities. 

          Whether it’s reading, listening to a podcast, journaling, or just simply relaxing, all of these activities can be made even more enjoyable with some sunshine, ice cream, or an iced beverage.

          Merry’s tip: What to bring to take a day in the park to the next level? 

          A book. Duh. Go paper instead of digital to give your eyes a rest (and read more easily in the sun). Since we’re about halfway through the year, I like to take this time to dust off my new year’s resolution list and do a little soul-searching. That’s when I turn to this list: 7 Books on Self-Awareness to Become a Better Person.

          A cool drink. I’m frugal and particular, so that means I like to make my own drink before heading out. I’m crazy about sparkling water with fresh lemon (it’s the little things). But if I have a bit of extra time, I love to brew up some homemade iced tea. Not sure which tea makes the best iced tea for you? Check out my guide on the Best Tea for Non Tea Drinkers.

          A journal. For doodling. For daydreaming. For writing. All of these options are better than doomscrolling—and better yet, they’re free! If political angst, family troubles, or work stress is getting you down, let it all out at the park with these 20 Journal Prompts for Anger. 

          2. Attend events solo (even if it feels scary)

          Many Londoners will tell you that the capital is a bit of a transient city, where a lot of people come and go— even more so since the pandemic. With the rising cost of living and the growing popularity of working from home, I’ve found my friendship circle shrinking year after year.

          So this summer, I’ve been making a conscious effort to push myself beyond my normal circle of friends and find opportunities to get out and meet new people on my own. 

          To my surprise, I discovered a whole host of events (even free ones) available locally. I’ve found free yoga classes, run clubs, book clubs, clothes up-cycling workshops, and more. 

          Signing up for these solo events is a great way to meet people who have similar interests—but even if you don’t make friends, you still get to spend a couple of hours doing something you enjoy. And isn’t that the point?

          Not at ease doing things alone?

          Sign up for the comfortable, nonjudgmental email challenge that helps you own the power of being alone.

          I recently signed up for a book club. Earlier this month, I attended a crafts event. And I’m already scheduled to attend an after-work drinks meet-up and a free university lecture next month. 

          While it’s still early days and I haven’t made meaningful friendships through these events (yet), it’s been a great way to meet new people and hear different perspectives. Plus, chatting books and doing crafts is a really fun way to spend my afternoons.

          If crafts or after-work drinks don’t sound like something you’d enjoy, there are lots of other events you can attend. For example, in my city, I’ve seen events like: 

          • Volunteering 
          • Baking classes
          • Flower-arranging classes 
          • Art workshops
          • Psychology or history talks

          You can find events like these through local universities, libraries, museums, and small businesses, as well as Facebook groups and apps like CLIQ or Meetup. 

          And if you can’t find any events near you that you’d like to attend, why not organize one yourself?

          3. Learn a new skill

          Summer often brings a slower pace at work, making it the perfect time to learn something new. Plus, picking up a new skill isn’t just a great way to fill time when you don’t know what to do alone in the summer—it can also be really rewarding! You never know, you may discover a new favorite hobby in the process. 

          This year, I focused on learning skills that were a little less business and a bit more fun. 

          I’ve been learning (or, should I say, clumsily attempting to learn) how to knit. I’ve also been brushing up on my German. And a couple of summers ago, I took a photography course—and actually learned how to use my DSLR camera that had been gathering dust in my desk drawer for years. 

          With so many resources (including free ones) available to learn new skills, it’s never been easier to start learning something new—and summer is the perfect time to do it.

          Quote graphic from A Merry Loner blog featuring a woman lying in a summer meadow with text about shrinking friendships and making solo efforts to meet new people during summer.

          4. Go to galleries, museums, and exhibitions

          Museum-hopping usually gets the most attention in the darker winter months, but I think it’s actually one of the best things to do in the summer by yourself.  

          For one, galleries and museums rotate their exhibitions all year round, so if you only visit them in the winter, you’ll miss out on many temporary exhibits you might also enjoy.

          I also like heading to museums and art galleries as a bit of a quiet escape from our loud, hectic world. Especially in the summer months when the city is extra lively (and crowded), ducking into a museum for a few hours of solo time is a nice way to chill out and recharge. 

          And honestly? When there’s a heatwave and crowds feel stifling, a calm, air-conditioned museum filled with art and sculptures is the best place to be.

          5. Take yourself on a solo movie or theater date

          I’m not going to lie, it took me forever to muster up the courage to go to the movies alone. 

          Even though it was something I’d been wanting to do for a while, I felt really embarrassed to approach the counter and buy a ticket for one. I was convinced that everyone would notice and judge me for being there alone. In reality though, I realized that nobody cares.

          Now, going to the movies alone is actually one of my favorite ways to spend time by myself—and it makes sense if you think about it.

          Both the movies and the theater require you to sit quietly in the dark, and (ideally) there’s no talking allowed. It’s the perfect thing to do alone—especially in the sweltering months when you’re looking for things to do in the summer by yourself where you can escape the heat.

          Merry’s tip: Still feeling a little awkward going to the movies or theater by yourself? 

          It’s normal. Those are typically billed as very “date-y” activities, which can make it feel super lame at first when you approach the counter to buy a ticket for one.

          But there’s nothing lame, embarrassing, or cringey about it.

          For a little dose of courage before taking yourself on your own movie date, read How to Get Better at Doing Things Alone.

          6. Do something you've been putting off for a while

          I know this doesn’t sound too glamorous, but if you find yourself with a lot of time on your hands and you’re truly at a loss for things to do alone in summer, then this is a good way to use that extra time productively.

          Yes, I know “summer” and “productive” don’t necessarily go hand in hand. But do you know that feeling when you cross something off your to-do list? The little dopamine rush? That’s what we’re going for here. 

          Case in point: Last month, I spent one whole weekend doing a big bedroom declutter. 

          I listened to a great audiobook, ordered take-out, made myself lots of iced tea, even treated myself to a glass of wine at the end. As much as I had dreaded doing this task, it ended up being almost fun—and I’m definitely glad to have finally gotten rid of some very unnecessary clutter.

          Merry’s tip: Can’t bring yourself to do that chore you’ve been putting off for ages? 

          You’re not the only one. But keep this in mind: Little by little, healthy habits have a way of snowballing into an overall healthier (and happier) life.

          If your home is already clutter-free and you’re not sure where to start, check out this list of 13 Habits to Start Now in Your 20s (or Whenever) for Long-Term Physical & Mental Wellbeing.

          7. Be a tourist in your own city

          Or if you’re feeling brave enough, go travel by yourself.

          While I’ve moved abroad by myself twice, I’ve never traveled alone. For a reason unknown even to me, I find the idea of solo travel a lot scarier than moving countries. But since I’m focused on saving money this summer, I decided against traveling this year—instead, I’ve been rediscovering the city I live in: London. 

          But even if you don’t live in a big city, there are usually plenty of places to see and new things to do alone in the summer. 

          For example, you could:

          • Visit a garden, park, or local nature reserve
          • Tour a local historical landmark
          • Enjoy a solo picnic
          • Explore new coffee shops
          • Take a bike ride around town

          Or if you’re feeling fancy, you could even treat yourself to an overnight hotel stay in your hometown—ideally, one with good room service and an outdoor swimming pool. 

          Taking a good, old staycation is a great way to try new local summer activities and get to know yourself a little better in the process.

          Merry’s tip: Feeling nervous about solo travel? 

          You’re not the only one. For a little inspiration on pushing yourself outside your comfort zone and finally taking the big trip, read:

          Scared of Traveling Alone: How to Deal with Solo Travel Anxiety

          What I Learned Traveling the World Alone Without My Partner 

          I Don’t Like Traveling Alone—But I Keep Doing It Anyway

          8. Eat out alone

          Since warm, sunny weather doesn’t last forever, make sure you take advantage of the summer by treating yourself to an outdoor dinner for one. 

          Eating out alone is another one of those solo activities that initially seemed too intimidating to me—until one day I didn’t have a choice.

          I was waiting for a dentist appointment after work and I was starving, so I decided to go out to dinner alone. After settling in and enjoying a tasty meal for one, I realized that  it wasn’t as scary as I had built it up in my head. 

          Funnily enough, the restaurant I went to must not get many solo diners, because they assumed I wanted to get my food as takeaway—they even packed it up at first before serving it to me on a plate. But I didn’t let this discourage me. I enjoyed my first solo dinner with a book and even treated myself to a dessert after.

          Tips for eating out alone for the first time: 

          Avoid the crowds; If you find the idea of eating out alone uncomfortable, try going outside of peak times. 

          Sit at the bar. It can also be helpful to pick a restaurant with bar seating. You’ll often find other solo diners seated at the bar, which can make your first time eating out alone feel less awkward. 

          Bring a distraction. And if you’re worried about spending the whole time doomscrolling or not knowing what to do with your hands, bring along a book. 

          For reading list inspiration, check out Easiest Classic Novels to Read | 18 Easy-to-Read Classics for Beginners.

          Conclusion: How to Enjoy Summer Alone

          Doing things alone can be scary, even in the best of times. And in a way, summertime can make it even more intimidating to do things alone since so many people’s social calendars are seemingly packed to the brim. 

          But you know those moments when you feel scared to do something new? And then when you finally push yourself to do it, you’re left wondering, “What was I so scared about?”

          The truth is, most things aren’t quite as bad as we build them up to be in our heads—and that’s definitely true when it comes to doing things alone in the summer. 

          Over time, I’ve realized that enjoying doing things alone is like a muscle: The more solo summer activities you try, the easier it becomes. 

          So put your sunglasses on, pack your favorite book, treat yourself to an iced coffee, and do whatever makes you happy—all on your own.

          I can guarantee you’ll be glad you did.

          Maja Krasnicka

          Maja Krasnicka is a project manager and freelance writer based in London. Her recent articles were published in Betches and Business Insider. In her free time, Maja likes to learn new skills, read, and obsess over interior design.

          Next Steps:

          Pick one solo summer activity from this list and schedule it. If it’s eating out alone, make the reservation. If it’s a meet-up group, commit to the event. Then, put it your calendar—making a countdown is (fun) but optional. 

          Find a book for your solo reading in the park. Borrow it from your local library or order it now from one of these Amazon Alternatives for Books.

          Plan your summer solo travel trip. Even if it’s just a weekend away or a small day trip. Get wanderlust inspiration with these 21 Quotes for Traveling Alone.

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          Things To Do Alone in Summer: Common FAQs

          What can you do alone in the summer for fun?

          There are plenty of things to do alone in the summer, no matter your budget. 

          If you’re looking for free things to do alone in the summer, why not spend the day luxuriating in a local park with a good book and a homemade iced tea? Dreamy sunset strolls and cloud-gazing are also free and accessible to all. 

          If you’re spending the summer alone and you want to treat yourself, how about leveling-up your staycation by booking a hotel in your hometown for the weekend? Think room service and chilling poolside—without the hassel of going to the airport.

          How do I spend my summer when I have no friends?

          If you find yourself spending the summer alone and aren’t sure how to fill the time, first of all—don’t despair! Alone time is a great opportunity to get to know yourself better and to make progress towards your personal and/or professional goals. 

          Start by getting in the right mindset. Find inspiration from these 7 Books on Self-Awareness. Then, follow these tips to learn How to Get Better at Doing Things Alone. 

          What to do on a summer day at home?

          Whether it’s scorching hot outside or unseasonably cloudy, sometimes you have to get a little creative with solo summer activities inside. 

          That’s when I turn to my Ultimate Guide to Self-Care with 100 Self-Care Ideas, like working on DIY projects, doing a little yoga or meditation, or going analog with a puzzle or paperback book. 

          What are some things you can do at home instead of going on holiday when you're alone and have nothing to do during your summer vacation?

          There are plenty of things to do in the summer by yourself when you need to stay at home. The classic advice is to learn to be a tourist in your own city. For example, you can take yourself to the movies; try a new restaurant; explore a local musuem; stroll in a park or nearby nature reserve. 

          If you’re at home alone during the summer, check out 100 Self-Care Ideas to turn your boring summer into some serious pampering time. 

          Discover how the merry loner lifestyle makes life more enjoyable:

          LONER MINDSET: fresh perspectives on learning to genuinely enjoy your own company

          BOOKS: reading lists for people who love being alone with a good story

          ANALOG LIVING: inspiration to step back from the screen and live a life offline

          SOLO TRAVEL: guides on where to go and how to enjoy it alone

          MINDFUL CONSUMPTION: vetted recommendations for a simpler, less wasteful life

          LONER Q&As: interviews from global voices on how to live a meaningful, enjoyable life

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            What To Do Instead of Social Media

            Merry August 18, 2025

            Live what’s beyond the screen.

            It feels a little sad thinking about writing this, but such is life in the age of an in-your-face, 24/7 newscycle, look-at-me-aren’t-I-interesting influencers, and cat videos. Understandably, I think it’s safe to say we’re all a little addicted to social media—even those of us trying to live a more analog life with paper books and journals replacing excessive screen time. 

            But it’s not easy. 

            When you’re eating dinner, unwinding after work, or just waiting in line at the grocery store, for so many of us, it’s become a natural impulse to reach for the phone. Even if we’re not looking at anything interesting. Even if we’re not really paying attention to what we’re reading or watching. Despite the lack of intrigue or real joy, it seems like we just can’t help ourselves. We. Must. Look. 

            But really, we don’t have to. We do have a choice to use social media less or not at all. It may not be easy at first to abstain. That’s okay. It’s not your fault. Big tech companies literally spend millions of dollars lobbying governments and paying huge teams large salaries to make their apps addictive and to craft crafty algorithms that bewitch, beguile, and tantalize. 

            Don’t give up, though. 

            The power of good habits is real. While it may be hard at first to use social media less, the more you pay attention to your impulses and make small, daily efforts to replace them with healthier (and more enjoyable!) activities, the less you’ll even want to look at social media. Because you’ll be too busy living life in the real world. 

            Start today. There’s no excuse. I’m giving you dozens of ideas of what to do instead of social media—and there are infinite other possibilities.

            The shortlist: 34 things to do instead of social media

            After you wake up: meditate; stretch; journal

            When you eat: read a book; sit in silence; phone a friend

            During your commute: listen to music; read; do a puzzle

            At night: make a cup of tea; take a warm bath; write tomorrow’s to-do-list and today’s done list

            If you want to be productive: learn a new language; do a word puzzle; study geography

            If you want something creative and mindful: doodle; color in a coloring book

            When you’re bored inside: do a puzzle; try a DIY craft; bake something simple

            If you want to go outside but don’t know what to do: go for a quick walk; do nothing

            When you have just a few minutes to fill: do a five-minute stretch; look out the window; drink a glass of water

            When you need to zone out: play with kinetic sand or putty; color, doodle, or knit

            If you want to unwind before bed: stretch; journal; read

            If you want a hobby you can do anywhere:draw; learn a new language; play cards; knit

            More articles on analog living:

            How to Live a More Analog Life

            How to Get Better at Doing Things Alone

            5 New Things I Want to Do Alone This Year

            What does analog living have to do with being a merry loner?

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              Things to do instead of social media

              When was the last time you let an entire day pass without spending at least a few minutes scrolling? 

              No judgment here—it’s hard! The entire world is clawing for our attention online, and resistance is tough. In my opinion, the easiest way out is finding new activities to replace the scrolling urge. 

              And there are plenty. Here are 34 ideas of things to do instead of social media:

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              What to do instead of social media in the morning after you wake up

              Did you know that over half (55%) of US adults check Facebook as soon as they wake up? Scary stuff, right? Especially when you consider these apps “cause the release of large amounts of dopamine into our brains’ reward pathway all at once, just like heroin, or meth, or alcohol.” Those words are from the Standard Medicine News Center, not me. 

              Instead of attacking your brain with advertisements and angry news articles, why not take a gentler start to the day?

              Meditate. Or if meditating isn’t for you, just take 10 deep breaths. I know it sounds silly, but give it a try. Do it sitting upright in bed, standing in front of a window, or American Psycho-style while looking at yourself in the mirror. The point is to start your day slow and easy rather than flooding your brain with advertisements, doomsday news, and comparison-inducing pictures of random people on the Internet who always seem to have it more together than you. 

              Stretch. If meditating or breathing exercises are a little too bland for you, then let’s get physical. Again, just five to 10 minutes of stretching is better than nothing. Do it in bed. Follow along with a YouTube video or just do what naturally feels good. Don’t forget to breathe deeply throughout. 

              Journal. Do you wake up with your mind already racing? Clear the air first thing by getting all that energy down on paper. It could be a to-do list if you’re really stressing, but try to save the responsibilities for later. Instead, maybe jot a few lines about the best part of yesterday, what you’re looking forward to today, or (the faithful standby) what you’re grateful for.

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              Things to do instead of scrolling social media when you eat

              Has eating while scrolling (or watching) become the default? I guess so. A new report from YouGov reveals about one-third of adults look at their phones while eating breakfast, lunch, and dinner. 

              Fight the urge to fill downtime (and chow time) with screen time. 

              Read a book. Or a magazine. Or a blog or even the newspaper. Whatever—but make it something you actually read. No skimming, no flitting through articles, and absolutely no scrolling. And when you get to the end of a page, maybe ponder it for a few seconds before immediately jumping to the next form of stimulation. 

              Sit in silence. Yes, it shouldn’t feel insane or serial killer-ish to just sit, unstimulated for a few minutes. I fear that’s become the case, though. Try it. Look out a window. Eat slowly. Let your mind wander or even become bored. (I’ll let you in on a secret: Boredome is where thinking and creativity blooms. And after that, you’re off to the races.) 

              Phone a friend. Don’t text them first. It’s really no big deal to call someone; if they’re busy or don’t feel like talking, they won’t pick up. Simple. But if they are free, lucky you. You get a few minutes to chat, catch up, and laugh with a friend—the oh-natural way to de-stress.** (Just be careful to not chew too loudly into the phone.)

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              What to do instead of scrolling social media during your commute

              Your options here vary depending on whether you drive, walk, cycle, or ride public transportation to work. Or maybe you work from home and don’t have a commute at all. (In that case, I still recommend creating a brief relaxing morning routine for yourself before plunging headfirst into your inbox.) 

              Listen to music. Not just in the background. Really listen to the music. Actually, this is the #1 thing I miss from my old commute. Every morning, I could listen to almost an entire album in its entirety, memorize all the lyrics, and catch the sonic nuances I miss when songs are just playing in the background. 

              Read. Yes, reading will make a few appearances on my list of things to do instead of social media. I simply can’t extol the benefits of reading enough. And given our society is experiencing an alarming decline in reading comprehension, I think reading a book, a blog, a magazine (anything, really) is one of the best things you can do for yourself—morning, noon, or night. 

              Do a puzzle. I’m partial to Sudoku, but there are a lot of options out there: crossword puzzles, word searches, dare I say Wordle. It seems like there’s a new word game dominating the App Store rankings every few months. While mobile games have their own addictive qualities, I still think it’s better than getting sucked into the infinite social media scroll.

              What to do instead of social media at night

              This is prime scroll time. And I get it. We’re all damn tired. Life is hectic, expensive (ever more so, it seems, with each passing day). When you can finally call it quits for the evening and do some R&R, social media is an easy, low-effort go-to. 

              But there are better (less destructive) ways to unwind. 

              Make a cup of tea. Don’t just boil water, plop a tea bag in a mug, and be on your way. Instead, make it a ritual. Take out a teapot, a teacup, and a tray. Stand in the kitchen while you wait for the water to boil. Measure out loose leaf tea. Maybe even create your own blends, like mixing chamomile and peppermint together. Stir in honey, milk, or lemon—you get the idea.

              Not a tea drinker?

              You just need to find your favorite cup. Discover the best teas for non tea drinkers.

              Take a warm bath. Is there anything more luxurious? While I prefer a good 45-minute soak with some tea, candles, and a good book, I realize this allotment isn’t practical for every night of the week. (Then again, most TV shows or doom-scrolling sessions end up being 45 minutes…) Even 15–20 minutes in the hot water with some bath oil and/or salts can melt away tension, warm up cold feet, and prep you for deeper, more restful sleep. 

              Write tomorrow’s to-do list and today’s done list. Preparing tomorrow’s to-do list the night before helps create mental space between where you are now (i.e., unwinding time) and the next day’s load of responsibilities. I’ve also recently gotten into writing “done” lists. Especially on days when I feel like I didn’t accomplish a lot, writing it all out on paper gives me a little screen-free dopamine hit—and helps me transition to relaxing time guilt-free.

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              Productive things to do instead of scrolling social media

              The screen is just too irresistible. So re-train your brain. 

              Instead of scrolling mindlessly through advertisements (seriously, it feels like Instagram is mostly just ads these days), try downloading a few more “productive” apps to take over your screen time. 

              Learn a language. Duolingo is the mainstay, and the one I’ve used to learn a little Polish and a few words in Italian. But there’s also Babbel, Drops, or Memrise. Sure, you’re not going to get fluent using a language-learning app—but you’ll certainly do more good for your brain learning how to order a coffee in German than watching someone show off a Shein haul on TikTok. 

              Do a word puzzle. There’s a reason retired people start picking up crossword puzzles and Sudoku books (besides all the extra free time). They help keep your mind sharp. One study from the International Journal of Geriatric Psychiatry found a link between the frequency of doing word puzzles and cognitive functioning in adults aged 50 to 93. So instead of killing your brain with scrolling, how about helping it out with an analog, paperback puzzle book? 

              Study geography. The word “study” may be a bit of a stretch here, but quick: What’s the capital of Eritrea? It’s embarrassing not to know geography, isn’t it? Rather than burning your retinas with memes and hot takes, why not take the 10 minutes you would have wasted on TikTok and use it to learn capitals with apps like World Map Quiz? 

              Creative, mindful activities to do instead of doomscrolling on Instagram

              This art isn’t going on the Internet. In fact, it could go straight in the trash if you want it to. The point isn’t to create something award-winning or innovative but to let the mind (and hand) wander freely for a few minutes and exercise your creative muscles—instead of numbing them with TikTok. 

              Doodle. ‘90s kids can draw that S shape (you know the one I’m talking about). A snowman. A house. An indiscernible abstract blob. (My go-to doodle in high school was different styles of Christmas trees.) Doodle on a napkin, in a notebook, or on the back of a receipt—anything to give your brain a little break without a glowing screen. 

              Color in a coloring book. If you prefer to color within the lines, that’s an option too. For this, you’ll need to buy an adult coloring book (Or a children’s coloring book. There are no age limits.) Put on some relaxing music, and let your hand and your crayons do the rest. I promise you’ll feel relaxed.

              Indoor activities to do instead of social media

              If you’re stuck inside for whatever reason (bad weather or waiting on the laundry), don’t reach for your phone out of habit to fill the space. Better yet, turn your phone on silent, put it in the other room, and focus on something analog. . 

              Do a puzzle. Jigsaw puzzles, in particular, are just the right combination of light mental stimulation and gentle motor movement. Enjoy a few moments of silence, or put on music or a podcast in the background. And when you’re done (even if it takes awhile), you can glue it, frame it, and hang it on the wall like a proud parent. 

              Try a DIY craft. It doesn’t have to be anything polished or Pinterest-worthy. Actually, it’s more fun if you don’t take it too seriously. Make a bookmark. Create a card to mail to a friend. Or cut up old magazines into a collage for your desk. (If you’re lost for inspiration, I share a lot more crafty inspiration in this list of 13 creative self-care ideas.) 

              Bake something simple. Again, you don’t have to get overly complicated (unless you want to). Baking brownies can literally take 15 minutes, especially if you use a boxed mix, so it doesn’t take much longer than a doomscroll. Plus, at the end, instead of FOMO, insecurities, and self-shame for feeling like you wasted time, you have a positive end result: brownies!

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              Outdoor activities to do instead of social media

              Your grandma, your dad, and science are all in agreement: stepping outside and getting some fresh air is good for you. Period. In fact, a review of 42 studies “found an association with exposure to natural environments and improvements in several aspects of cognitive performance, including attention.”

              As soon as you put down the phone and step outside, you’re already on the right track—it doesn’t really matter what you’re doing. Still, here are few ideas to inspire your day:

              Go for a quick walk. Every time I take myself on a stupid little mental health walk, I come back home a new person. First, I tell myself, “Why don’t I do this more often?” And then I come home lighter, airier, sunnier, feeling more positive and even prettier—despite the fact that literally nothing has changed except I moved my body and got some fresh air. (On the flip side, has scrolling ever made you feel lighter and prettier?) 

              Do nothing. Sit on a bench. People-watch. Cloud-gaze. Lie in the grass if you’re near a park. Doing nothing is not only good for your mental health, it’s where the magic happens. As Professor Manfred F. R. Kets de Vries, INSEAD Distinguished Professor of Leadership Development & Organisational Change told INSEAD: “…in many instances boredom can be a prelude to something. It can trigger our imagination and creativity.” And best of all? In a world that gets more expensive by the day, stepping outside and smelling the flower is free.

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              Quick minute activities to do instead of scrolling Instagram

              Something that changed my life? Realizing I can still get value out of an activity even if I don’t do it for what I feel is a “worthwhile” amount of time. Doing yoga for 10 minutes is better than not at all. Going for a walk for 5 minutes is better than staying cooped up. 

              If you have less than 10 minutes? There’s still a lot of good you can do for your body and your mind: 

              Do a five-minute stretch. When I’m working from home and need a break between tasks, I used to “treat” myself with a few minutes on Instagram. Those few minutes usually ended up being longer than intended—and afterwards, I felt listless, burnt out, and mad at myself for wasting time. Now I pull up a 5-minute “at-your-desk stretch” on YouTube. Those five minutes feel like 15! At the end, I actually feel energized and ready to focus again—and happy with myself for making the right choice. 

              Look out the window. Not just a two-second quick break from your laptop. More like a long, rolling gaze. What do you see? Passers-by? Trees swaying a little in the breeze? Cute dogs walking by? Give yourself a few minutes to daydream. It’s like TV in your head.

              Drink a glass of water. Like the most important things in life, it may not be glamorous, but it’s good for you. Then again, you can make it glamorous. Take five minutes to slice a lemon or some mint leaves. Toss in a few frozen raspberries. (I always keep those in the freezer for smoothies and fancy-ing up my water.) It gives your body a refresh; it gives your hands something to do; and it looks beautiful. Because life should be beautiful.

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              Mindless things to do instead of social media

              Like everyone else in the world, I also sometimes just want to zone out and not think. That’s normal; that’s fine. But if you find yourself dissociating on TikTok too often for too long, it might be time to kick that habit and replace it with something equally brainless but a little less addictive. 

              Play with kinetic sand or putty. You can even get a little Zen garden to rake. It’s strangely satisfying and gives your brain a moment to zone out with an actually relaxing activity—instead of aggressive doomscrolling which, according to a research review published in Applied Research in Quality of Life, is bad for our mental well-being and life satisfaction. Just saying. SOURCE: Harvard Health Publishing

              Color, doodle, or knit. All excellent options for zoning out without turning to social media. I’ve started doing this if I get stressed in the middle of the workday and need a few minutes to decompress. I put on some relaxing music (or even a guided meditation if I’m really stressing), grab a piece of paper, and let my brain be blissfully thoughtless.

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              Things to do instead of checking social media before going to bed

              I don’t think I need to cite a statistic to demonstrate how often people look at social media before going to bed. We’re all guilty of it. And we know it’s bad for us, sending our bodies into a state of heightened alertness which (unsurprisingly) wreaks havoc on our sleep, per Scientific American.

              Try this instead:  

              Stretch. A great way to start the day—and a great way to end it. Even if I’m super tired and come home later after a busy day, I can’t just crash into bed. Instead, I’ll open my laptop and pick a 10-minute evening wind-down stretch, which helps both my mind and my body decompress and get ready for a restful sleep. 

              Journal. Is there ever a bad time to journal? I don’t think so. Especially before bed when our minds are often running wild with the next day’s to-do list or a highlight reel of all the cringey stuff we said that day, journaling is a quick, easy, free way to let it all out and calm down for the night. 

              Read. I know people are into their e-readers, but in this case, a real book is best. In a study published by the journal Trials, one-third of participants said reading a book before bed improved their sleep. And I believe it. If I get into bed with a screen, I’ll probably stay up for 30+ minutes scrolling or watching. But if I crack open a book, I’ll be like an old man “resting my eyes” within 15 minutes.

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              Hobbies to replace social media you can do anywhere

              If you want to quit your social media habit and make it stick, then you need to do more than resist temptation—you need to find a new go-to activity for filling downtime. 

              Enter hobbies. It seems like nobody has them anymore, even though research says hobbies are tied to better mental health. (Nobody’s saying that about social media, are they?) 

              Here are few on-the-go hobbies you can keep your bag to do instead of social media: 

              Drawing. Keep a tiny notebook in your bag and pull it out the next time you’ve got a few minutes to kill and want to reach for the phone. (No excuses! Pocket notebooks are easy to find, and these days, they’re probably smaller than that giant iPhone you’re carrying, anyway.) 

              Learning a new language. I’ve abandoned DuoLingo because I’m trying to go completely screen-free, but I have an impressive 700+ day streak for quite a while. (I actually used DuoLingo to help me kick my social media habit.) And guess what? All those five- or 10-minute daily exercises added up! These days, I can confidently order a coffee, clumsily ask for directions, or even struggle through reading a children’s book in Polish. 

              Playing cards. Solitaire. Go Fish. War. You may need a little more time (and space) to whip out a card game, but if you’ve got a flat surface, it’s a great way to fill the time without giving into the doomscroll. 

              Knitting. Or crocheting. I used to do cross-stitch. Depending on how big your everyday bag is, these projects can be surprisingly easy to carry out and pull out when you’ve got a few minutes of downtime. They keep your hands busy—and are much better for your brain than mindless scrolling.

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              Conclusion: There’s so much life beyond social media

              Scrolling may seem like just a pesky habit, but it’s so much worse than that. Social media robs us of the most valuable thing in the world: time. 

              Time to spend with friends and family. Time to spend with ourselves. Time to learn new skills and discover new hobbies. Time to think. 

              Don’t you want to take that time back? 

              You don’t need to go cold turkey. There’s nothing wrong with enjoying checking out the fun goings-on online. But don’t let mindless scrolling become your default—not when there are so many great things to do instead of social media. 

              Things that leave you feeling refreshed rather than drained. Inspired instead of depressed. 

              If you’re looking for what to do instead of social media, just start small. Try one thing, and notice how it changes your mood, your focus, and your days. 

              The more we live life beyond the screen, the more we realize it’s actually more interesting than any feed.

              Next Steps:

              Pick one activity from this blog post and write in a Post-It. Stick that Post-It on your phone. The next time you get the urge to scroll, lock your phone screen, and try out your new analog activity instead. 

              Buy a book. Or rent one from the library. Keep it in your bag. When you want to reach for social media, reach for this book instead. Need reading inspiration? Check out my 2025 reading list.

              Find more ways to cut the digital from your life. Read How to Live a More Analog Life: 5 easy, cheap (or free) ideas.

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              What To Do Instead of Social Media: Common FAQs

              What to do when bored instead of social media?

              Boredom actually isn’t a bad thing. The next time you’re feeling bored, instead of reaching for social media, let yourself sit with that boredom for a few minutes. Where does your mind go? If you need to let it out, try journaling or doodling—or just let the daydreaming run wild. When in doubt, move your body. Even a 10-minute walk can change your entire perspective.

              Instead of going on social media, what hobbies can I pick up so I never get bored?

              Hobbies are kind of like dating: You need to try a few and see what else is out there before you know what you like. So start experimenting! Keep a journal in your bag to draw or write in your free time. Explore classic novels to find your inner bookworm. Download a productive app to learn a new language, play chess, or try word puzzles. If one hobby doesn’t stick, no worries—try something else.

              What do people with no social media spend their time doing?

              Plenty! They read, write, draw, cook, play games, exercise… The list goes on and on! Most notably, people who don’t fill all their downtime with social media have usually mastered the skill of learning to do nothing. It’s not always easy at first, but the more you spend time in the real world, the less you’ll feel the pull to the digital. You can start with these 5 ways to live a more analog life.

              What can I do on the Internet instead of social media?

              Rather than scrolling mindlessly with whatever the latest algorithm decides to forcefeed you, try using the Internet intentionally. Read articles or blog posts. Watch documentaries. Take online courses. Listen to music—not just as background noise. The Internet literally contains all the knowledge of the universe. And it’s a lot easier to access the good stuff when you stop defaulting to your social media feed.

              With what can you replace social media scrolling?

              It depends what you’re into. If you’re a reader, start carrying a book everywhere you go. If that’s not your thing, invest in a good notebook for journaling, writing, or sketching. Or if you’re hooked on apps, try a more productive one, like DuoLingo for language learning or World Map Quiz for geography. An analog break is even better, like five minutes of stretching, walking, or looking out the window—anything offline to break the scroll and remind you there’s life beyond the feed.

              Discover how the merry loner lifestyle makes life more enjoyable:

              LONER MINDSET: fresh perspectives on learning to genuinely enjoy your own company

              BOOKS: reading lists for people who love being alone with a good story

              ANALOG LIVING: inspiration to step back from the screen and live a life offline

              SOLO TRAVEL: guides on where to go and how to enjoy it alone

              MINDFUL CONSUMPTION: vetted recommendations for a simpler, less wasteful life

              LONER Q&As: interviews from global voices on how to live a meaningful, enjoyable life

              Merry

              Merry is the blogger behind A Merry Loner, a full-time freelance writer, and a lifelong bookworm. Since kindergarten, it was her dream to become a novelist. (She likes to think she's halfway there.) Born and raised in Rhode Island, where she earned a triple-major BA in writing, communication, and French from the University of Rhode Island, she moved to Toulouse, France after the pandemic to complete a master's in creative writing at Univeristé Toulouse Jean — Jaurès. She now lives in Paris with husband.

              Feeling Lonely?

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              Every week, I write a newsletter with notes on books, analog living, solo travel, and mindful consumption—the pillars of what I call the Loner Mindset.

              Because when you can be happy on your own, you can do anything.

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                Scared of Traveling Alone: How to Deal with Solo Travel Anxiety

                Daniel John August 7, 2025

                Don’t let your fear of traveling alone hold you back. These tips will help.

                I’m pretty happy being by myself. In fact, I would say I’m comfortably a 4.5 on the Five Stages of Being a Merry Loner. I’ve gotten to the point where going to the cinema with anyone else seems utterly ridiculous (it’s the least social activity imaginable), and there is not a shred of self consciousness when eating alone at a restaurant. Zilch.

                So, you’d assume solo travel would be a breeze, right? Well, let me introduce you to my pal: anxiety.

                The shortlist: 4 strategies to stop being scared of traveling alone

                1. If you’re spiraling over all the what-ifs
                2. If you’ve heard hostels are great—but you’re nervous about staying with so many strangers
                3. If you’ve got major decision fatigue when traveling alone
                4. If you’re overwhelmed by all the new sights, sounds, and smells

                Coping with solo travel anxiety

                My love-hate relationship with anxiety (he is, in his own way, trying to protect me) began at an early age. I was the kid who got nervous at sleepovers, the one who fretted whether his toys were getting along, and above all, the one who really hated change. And guess what? As it turns out, travel is just one long exercise in change: new beds, new people, new daily uncertainties.

                Despite all that, I’ve somehow managed to survive (and occasionally thrive) through two months of interrailing around Europe and half a year of navigating Turkey and Southeast Asia. In fact, as I type, I’m in the process of packing my bags to head back to Vietnam. All on my merry lonesome. 

                Whether you’re a proud loner or just Loner Curious, it’s still normal to be a little scared of traveling alone—but that doesn’t mean you have to let solo travel anxiety hold you back from your dream destinations.  

                Let’s go hand-in-hand through some of the top reasons people have a fear of traveling alone—and come up with strategies to kick your solo travel anxiety:

                More articles on solo travel: 

                Solo Travel to Paris: Itinerary for Traveling to Paris Solo + 26 Things to Do Alone in Paris

                I Don’t Like Traveling Alone—But I Keep Doing It Anyway

                Alone at Night in Paris—Where to Take Yourself on a Solo Date

                What does solo travel have to do with being a merry loner?

                It's one of the most easily recognizable parts of the merry loner lifestyle. While I love traveling with friends, there's nothing quite like the freedom of solo travel—no waiting on others to make plans and no needing anyone else's company to justify the trip.

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                  1. You're spiraling over all the what-ifs

                  There is absolutely no getting around it: Traveling alone comes with uncertainty. In the bucketloads. 

                  You’re ditching the comfort of your own little bubble and swapping it for the big wide world. That can sound horrifically daunting, but taking it step by step is the way to go. And spoiler: The uncertainty and unknown is where the magic happens.

                  For me, the largest uncertainty was: “What if I can’t handle it?” For you, it might be: “What if I get ill?” “What if I hurt myself?” “What if I get stranded in an airport with the wrong visa?” 

                  Whatever it is, these are just the what-ifs, and they are a very, very natural response to the prospect of solo travel. Your brain is simply trying to prepare for the worst-case scenarios. 

                  It’s a pain in the arse, don’t get me wrong—but the less attention you give these thoughts, the less intense they become.

                  Tip: Prepare for your biggest solo travel fear—then let the rest go.

                  There’s a fine line between preparing and over-preparing. 

                  Obsessive planning tells your nervous system there’s something to fear, which keeps you stuck in anxious loops. Instead, pick one major thing to plan well, and let the rest go.

                  For me, that involves doing a decent amount of research on accommodation options. I’m not a party-person anymore, so ending up in a rowdy hostel or in a hotel next to a club is nightmare-fuel. Once I know that where I’m staying will be quiet, comfortable, and welcoming, a lot of my what-ifs calm down.

                  For you, that might look like researching good restaurants, being near a medical centre, or staying in the safest neighbourhood in the area.

                  Then you have to stay firm and not fall into the trap of prepping for everything else. Remind yourself you have sorted out your main concern and that you can handle whatever else is thrown your way.

                  Illustrated quote reading “Spoiler: The uncertainty and unknown is where the magic happens,” with artwork of a red-headed figure walking alone between two wagons. From A Merry Loner.

                  2. You’ve heard hostels are great—but you’re nervous about staying with so many strangers

                  Storytime: After five dreamy days in the Algarve, beach-hopping, making new friends, and feeling freer than ever, I booked the first decent-reviewed hostel I could find en route to Seville. 

                  Big mistake. 

                  The place revolved around drinking games (conveniently held right outside my bedroom), and I shared a dorm with a 60-year-old whose snores registered on the Richter scale. As I lay there, bed shaking from the aftershocks and sleep deprived, I promised myself: no more rushed hostel bookings.

                  For us Merry Loners, hostels can present all sorts of hurdles and challenges. Of course, you can choose to avoid them entirely—but they’re affordable, and meeting people from all over the world is one of the best parts of travel (yes, even as a loner).

                  Tip: Look for quiet, non-party hostels

                  My top tip for you if you have solo travel anxiety about overcrowded hostels is to pick hostels that aren’t considered very social. 

                  There are a few ways to find these. First, look at the reviews. If you see things like “Really nice place, just a little quiet,” cha-ching! You’ve hit the jackpot. 

                  Second, avoid any hostel with an on-site or nearby bar (double-check the pictures for this). Next, don’t go with the cheapest option. You pay for what you get in hostels, and cheapo ones typically attract the loud crowds. 

                  I’m aware that it might sound like I’m setting you up for a boring stay, but keep in mind that for us introverted solo travelers, a place that is considered “not very social” to others could offer the perfect level of interaction for us. It also means you’re more likely to meet like-minded travelers.

                  A few more quick tips if you’re anxious about traveling alone and staying in a hostel:

                  If you’re staying in dorms, every week or two, book a couple days in a private room or move to a hotel.

                  If you’re a people-pleaser, practice saying no. Saying yes to everyone and every offer you receive is exhausting—people won’t mind if you decline.

                  3. You get major decision fatigue when traveling alone

                  Waking up each morning with a clean slate ahead and not having to cater to anyone else’s needs is unbelievably liberating. “Hmmm, today I think I’ll spend the morning at the beach, the afternoon at a cosy café with my book, and the evening eating good food with a view— bliss.”

                  There is, however, a negative to all this choice: decision fatigue. 

                  I’m not the most decisive person (at the best of times), but if you throw in tiredness, language barriers, and a steady stream of revolving new situations, I’m like a deer in headlights. 

                  I’m aware this sounds a little ridiculous.“Oh, poor you, having to decide what to do each day while traveling around the world must be so hard.” I get it. Plenty of my friends and family would kill for that challenge. But it’s a very real thing, and not having anyone to share decision-making responsibility with is tiring when you’re traveling alone.

                  Tip: Stick to routines, and keep your itinerary light

                  Routine is a key part of your life, whether you’re conscious of it or not. So when you’re on the road, finding structure is important. 

                  Try to stick to the same sleep/wake cycle when possible; develop an exercise schedule (however light); and attempt to eat meals at similar times each day.

                  Speaking of meals, don’t feel bad about eating at the same place for several days (or weeks) in a row. There’s great pressure when traveling to try all the amazing foods on offer, but sometimes having a regular spot you know and love can really reduce decision fatigue. 

                  I would also really recommend booking in “do nothing” days. 

                  It’s very tempting to pack your calendar full of activities so you don’t miss out on anything. Great on paper, absolutely rubbish in reality—you’ll soon crash and burn. If I’m in a place for a week, I block out at least two to three days for relaxing, laundry, life admin (the new Gym, Tan, Laundry for those Jersey Shore fans).

                  Illustrated quote reading “One of the most amazing things about travel is that everything is new...,” with watercolor artwork of a lone figure walking between wagons. From A Merry Loner.

                  4. You’re overwhelmed by all the new sights, sounds, and smells

                  This point might not apply to you, but I wanted to include it because it’s something I’ve had to manage—and I have a sneaking suspicion that if you also enjoy time alone, you might be a little sensitive to sensory input, too.

                  Sensory processing sensitivity is a heightened sensitivity to sensory stimuli (try saying that quickly), like light, sound, smell, and touch. Basically, if you find yourself squirming when loud emergency vehicles soar past or you’re someone who hates overhead lights and opts for lamps and candles, you might fall into this category. 

                  It’s actually very common, with 15-20% of the population believed to experience the world in this way—so it’s nothing to be ashamed of. It can, however, impact how you take in the world when you’re on the road.

                  One of the most amazing things about travel is that everything is new. It’s like seeing the world through a toddler’s eyes, and it makes you realize how switched off you can be in normal life. But after a while, all these new sights, smells, noises, and tastes can feel a little too much, making the magic of a busy Bangkok market turn into a sensory slaughterhouse.

                  Tip: Pack gear to help you find your zen

                  This will depend on which sense is the most sensitive for you. For me, that’s sound, so  I won’t travel anywhere without my noise-cancelling headphones or earplugs. These two tools help bring the noise down to a far more manageable level and make me feel more in control of my environment.

                  If harsh lights bother you, I’ve found baseball caps and/or sunglasses are great, while steering clear of markets or harbors is best when smells are too much.

                  When in doubt, one of the best things you can do for sensory overload is to book a hotel room and allow yourself to withdraw from the world. Take a day or two with the curtains drawn, order food, and situate yourself horizontally. You’ll soon feel yourself again.

                  If imagining noisy, crowded environments is enough to get your solo travel anxiety going, then let’s take a look at some of the quieter spots you could enjoy on your travels: from the rivers of Yellowstone to the beaches of Ericeira to the cats of Istanbul.

                  I got over my fear of traveling alone—and you can too

                  If you had asked my friends a few years ago who among us would be the most likely to travel alone, I would have been rock bottom on the list—not due to my fear of being alone (quite the opposite) but due to solo travel anxiety. 

                  But  if I can do it, you absolutely can.

                  If you’re headed off on your first solo trip, then it’s normal to be feeling scared of traveling alone. To be honest, yes—you might have the odd wobble. But you’ll learn a lot about yourself (cliché, but true), meet some seriously interesting people, and have an adventure you’d never get sitting at home wondering, “What if?” 

                  So start your research (but not too much), pack your bags, and go forth into the big wide world, even if you’re still a little anxious. You got this. 

                  Daniel John

                  Daniel John is a freelance copywriter from the UK who spends his days writing words for brands across industries—from travel to automotive to mental health. When not working, you’ll most likely find him behind the lens coaxing cats into posing for the camera. You can see some of his professional work at danieljohncopy.com

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                  Next Steps:

                  Start planning your solo trip. If could be close to home, like a weekend away in the next town. Or it could be a dreamy, long-haul vacation like a solo trip to Paris. If that’s the case, I’ve got your 7-day solo travel Paris itinerary.

                  Get a little more solo travel courage. If you’re not convinced about the value of solo travel, read this essay: I Don’t Like Traveling Alone—But I Keep Doing It Anyway.

                  Build some solo travel inspiration. Get yourself in the mood for solo travel planning with these 21 quotes for traveling alone. 

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                  Discover how the merry loner lifestyle makes life more enjoyable:

                  LONER MINDSET: fresh perspectives on learning to genuinely enjoy your own company

                  BOOKS: reading lists for people who love being alone with a good story

                  ANALOG LIVING: inspiration to step back from the screen and live a life offline

                  SOLO TRAVEL: guides on where to go and how to enjoy it alone

                  MINDFUL CONSUMPTION: vetted recommendations for a simpler, less wasteful life

                  LONER Q&As: interviews from global voices on how to live a meaningful, enjoyable life

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                  I believe a happy life starts with learning to love your own company.

                  Every week, I write a newsletter with notes on books, analog living, solo travel, and mindful consumption—the pillars of what I call the Loner Mindset.

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                    6 Ethical Tea Companies for Fair Trade Tea Bags & Organic Tea

                    Merry July 30, 2025

                    Not to be a bummer, but even a seemingly harmless cup of tea is steeped in big business, environmental desolation, and capitalist exploitation. So I’ve been looking for ethical tea companies instead.

                    Tea has been a mainstay in my daily routine since early adolescence. I didn’t become a regular coffee drinker until college, when my go-to for surviving early mornings and dull classes was a large, dry cappuccino (sometimes with an extra shot of espresso if my soul was particularly suffering that day). 

                    But even then, I still turned to my vat of piping hot peppermint tea to get me through late-night study sessions at the library. (Pro tip: I saved money by bringing my own tea bags with me so I only had to hand over fifty cents for a cup of hot water.) 

                    Usually, those tea bags weren’t organic. While I grew up in a family that believed in regular exercise and three well-balanced meals a day, those meals typically comprised lean protein, frozen vegetables, and a standard rice, pasta, or potato product (thanks, mom!). Nutritious and delicious—but not certified organic. 

                    It wasn’t until I started buying my own groceries and the like that I realized most of the mainstream crap we consume every day can have dire consequences on the environment and the safety and wellbeing of others. 

                    In other words, as I entered early adulthood, became more interested in politics, and attempted to expand my worldview beyond my own tiny borders, I learned that even my simple cup of tea was tied up in the throes of big business, environmental desolation, and capitalist exploitation. 

                    Dismayed and disheartened by the dark side of my morning Earl Grey, that’s how I found my way to ethical tea companies, i.e., ethical tea brands that prioritize environmental and social responsibility—ya know, like paying people a living wage and not needlessly wrapping every single little tea bag in a piece of plastic that will immediately get thrown away—and then haunt the Earth forever. 

                    And good news: These brands aren’t prohibitively expensive. They’re not difficult to find. And they taste damn good. 

                    After some careful research, I’ve weeded out the posers to identify six truly ethical tea companies that allow you to indulge in a delectable pot of herbal goodness—without the guilt of environmental destruction or poverty hanging overhead.

                    I also share why it matters where you buy your tea from and the importance of voting with your dollar.

                    The shortlist: the 6 most ethical tea companies for fair trade tea bags & organic tea

                    1. Traditional Medicinals—best for functional herbal teas
                    2. Numi Tea—best for 100% plastic-free packaging
                    3. Yogi Tea—best for a wide variety of flavors
                    4. Pukka Herbs—best for organic, Ayurvedic blends
                    5. Equal Exchange—best for worker-owned, fair trade tea
                    6. DAVIDsTEA—best for loose-leaf blends

                    More articles on mindful consumption:

                    Best Tea for Non Tea Drinkers | How to Start Drinking Tea

                    5 Alternatives to Amazon for Books (and why I no longer buy books from Amazon)

                    How to Live a More Analog Life: 5 easy, cheap (or free) ideas

                    What does mindful consumption have to do with being a merry loner?

                    A lot, actually. I don't buy to impress, fit in, or keep up with the trends. Instead, I vet, research, and ruthlessly scrutinize brands and products so I only take home what truly adds value to my space and my life. Above all, I focus on buying less, but better.

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                      My favorite ethical tea companies for indulgence without the moral consequences

                      These are my favorite ethical and sustainable tea brands that I’ve added to my tea repertoire over the years. 

                      Whether I’m tucking a few fair trade tea bags into my purse to prepare for a future on-the-go tea emergency or going all-out at home with loose leaf tea and the antique tea cups I found at a flea market, these ethical tea companies let me enjoy the healthy, heart-warming benefits of a cup—without a guilty conscience.

                      What’s that—not a tea lover? You just haven’t found your perfect match yet.

                      I wrote an incredibly detailed, 3,000-word guide on how to start drinking tea, breaking down the basics of tea, the 10 best teas for non tea drinkers, and how to find the best tea(s) for you. 

                      Join the thousands of other readers who have learned how to start drinking tea with my guide on the Best Tea for Non Tea Drinkers. (It’s free.)

                      1. Traditional Medicinals—best for functional herbal teas

                      Traditional Medicinals has been in business since 1974, long before “wellness” and “clean living” became the buzzwords at which so many of us roll our eyes today. 

                      It was founded by herbalist Rosemary Gladstar and community activist and environmentalist Drake Sadler—the former of which is apparently something of a rockstar in the herbal community. Gladstar founded the California School of Herbal Studies, United Plant Savers, and Sage Mountain Botanical Sanctuary. She’s also written 27 books, including a few on my reading list: 

                      The company goes more into their certifications and environmental projects in their annual impact report, but here’s a little taste: They are certified FairWild, Fair Trade, Fair for Life, USDA Organic, and a B Corp. On top of that, Traditional Medicinals is also a registered California Benefit Corporation (like Patagonia) and has been named among the Best Places to Work in the North Bay Business journal for seven years in a row. 

                      Beyond these impressive credentials, what I like most about Traditional Medicinals is (as the name suggests), their tea blends are rooted in functional herbal practices—and if you’re totally lost on what that means, they explain in their Herb Library, where you can get a deep dive into the properties, health benefits, and traditional uses of different herbs, such as raspberry leaf, lemon balm leaf, and licorice root.  

                      Key Takeaways: 

                      • Certified organic, FairWild, Fair for Life, Fair Trade, B Corp, and a registered California Benefit Corporation
                      • Functional herbal teas, lozenges, and capsules
                      • Award-winning workplace culture

                      Where to find Traditional Medicinals Tea? 

                      My favorite Traditional Medicinals tea is their licorice root tea. 

                      Shop Traditional Medicinals

                      2. Numi Tea—best for 100% plastic-free packaging

                      Numi Tea has a pretty stacked resume when it comes to evaluating ethical tea companies. The brand was founded in Oakland, California in 1999 by brother-and-sister duo Ahmed Rahim and Reem Hasson who chose the name in memory of the steeped desert lime they drank during their childhood in Baghdad. 

                      Unrelated, but one thing I always find inspiring is people who have diverse educational and professional backgrounds—and that’s Ahmed and Reem. Ahmed studied theater and psychology in the USA before working as a filmmaker and photographer and running teahouses in Europe. Reem, meanwhile, has a BS in bio medical engineering, a Diploma d’Arte from Lorenzo de Medici Art Institute in Florence, Italy, and an M.F.A. in Arts & Consciousness Studies from JFK University in California.

                      They both contribute to the Numi Foundation, a non-profit organization that’s provided global assistance for COVID-19, water access, and education in California and Iraq. 

                      Other things I like? Numi Tea’s tea wrappers are 100% compostable and completely plastic-free, which means they contribute 67% fewer greenhouse gas emissions than conventional tea wrappers.

                      And they’ve got credentials in spades: Fair Trade Certified, Verified Fair Trade, Climate Neutral Certified, and B Corp certified. (In fact, they were among the first 30 companies certified as B Corps back in 2006.)

                      Key Takeaways: 

                      • Tea wrappers are 100% compostable & plastic-free, leaving 67% lower emissions than conventional tea wrappers
                      • Fair Trade Certified, Verified Fair Trade, Climate Neutral Certified, certified B Corp, and active in community development through the Numi Foundation
                      • Also makes organic whole leaf teas in gallon-sized pouches, specially made for brewing iced tea

                      Where to find Numi Tea? 

                      My favorite Numi Tea is their Moroccan Mint.

                      Shop Numi Tea

                      3. Yogi Tea—best for a wide variety of flavors

                      On their website, Yogi Tea claims they’re more than a sustainable or ethical tea brand: They call themselves a “wellbeing company.”

                      This is due in part to their focus on Ayurveda, where they lean on ancient Indian practices and modern scientific research to create tea blends that restore energy, calm your mind, support digestion, etc., depending on what you need in the moment. And they’ve been at it for a while. 

                      In business for over 50 years, Yogi Tea offers 40+ tea blends from 140+ different plants—and every tea they sell has been certified organic since Day 1. 

                      Also cool? They’ve been a certified B Corp (which means they must meet certain social responsibility and environmental standards) since 2014. And their Oregon production facility was actually the first LEED-certified tea factory in the whole world, which means it meets the U.S. Green Building Council’s framework for efficient, cost-saving green buildings.

                      You can see more proof of Yogi Tea’s responsible business practices in their annual sustainability report, where the tea company spells out how they’re reducing waste by making their packaging lighter, shortening the distance their tea has to travel, and supporting regenerative agriculture. 

                      Believe it or not, Yogi Tea has reduced the carbon footprint so much that the greatest source of emissions during the lifecycle of one of their teas is now actually the energy we use at home to boil water to brew a cup! 

                      Key Takeaways: 

                      • Offers 40+ tea blends from 140+ plants with a focus on wellness and flavor
                      • Certified B Corp and home to the world’s first LEED-certified tea factory
                      • Continuously upgrading packaging and supply chain practices for greater sustainability 

                      Where to find Yogi Tea? 

                      My favorite Yogi tea is roasted dandelion spice detox. 

                      Shop Yogi Tea

                      4. Pukka Herbs—best for organic, Ayurvedic blends

                      Pukka Herbs is a certified organic tea brand founded by an ex-business consultant and a conservation and herbalism enthusiast. Together, the pair supposedly took inspiration from the Hindi word pukka, which means “real, authentic, or genuine.” 

                      These are principles the company says they aim to uphold—and it looks like they’re staying true to their word. 

                      For one, they’ve got third-party certifications to back up their claims. 

                      Pukka Herbs is certified by Fair for Life, which ensures their supply chain is socially and environmentally responsible, guaranteeing fair wages and safe, respectful working environments, among other benefits for local families and communities. The tea brand also bears the FairWild certification, which verifies that wild plant ingredients are harvested legally, ethically, and sustainably. Plus, all of their tea is 100% certified organic, as verified by the Soil Association. 

                      One thing that sets Pukka Herbs apart is their dedication to Ayurveda, what John Hopkins Medicine defines as “a whole-body (holistic) system of medicine that began in India more than 3,000 years ago” and “a natural approach to all aspects of health and well-being.” For example, some of the Pukka Herbs blends include ingredients like turmeric, ginger, holy basil, and licorice root, which are believed to support digestion, reduce inflammation, or calm the nervous system. 

                      I also like that this tea brand donates 1% of their annual sales to environmental and social projects; their tea bags are certified compostable; and they’ve planted 1.6M trees in partnership with Tree Sisters, a reforestation charity. 

                      (Plus, the packaging is pretty delightful-looking, which we all know shouldn’t be a selling point, but is.)

                      Key Takeaways: 

                      • Certified organic, Fair for Life certified, and FairWild certified
                      • Blends are inspired by Ayurvedic tradition 
                      • Tea bags are compostable and free of plastic

                      Where to find Pukka Herbs? 

                      My favorite Pukka Herbs tea is their Love herbal tea with rose, chamomile, and lavender. 

                      Shop Pukka Herbs

                      5. Equal Exchange—best for worker-owned, fair trade tea

                      Maybe most impressive among these ethical tea companies is Equal Exchange (and actually, they make a lot more than tea, also offering coffee, chocolate, nuts, dried fruit, and olive oil). 

                      Founded all the way back in 1986, Equal Exchange has a fascinating history. The founding trio was intent on creating an organization that valued every stage of the supply chain and gave farmers economic control of their future. So they made the bold (and risky) decision to import fairly traded coffee from Nicaragua—at a time when the US had an embargo against the Sandinista government. 

                      They went all in on their decision, quitting their jobs and investing their own money in the company. By 1991, Equal Exchange reached $1 million in sales. 

                      There’s much more to the history of Equal Exchange. Beyond the company’s commitment to partnering with farmer cooperatives and building economically and environmentally just trade partnerships, it is organized as a worker co-op. This is an alternative business model where every worker-owner gets one vote, invests an equal share in the business, and participates in profit distribution at the end of the year. 

                      Treating people fairly and making decisions together as a team? Those are the kinds of values I like to see. Knowing I’m supporting those principles with my single cup of tea makes every sip that much more enjoyable. 

                      If you wish, learn more about Equal Exchange’s mission, history, co-op model, and the alternative trade economy. 

                      Key Takeaways: 

                      • Worker-owned cooperative using direct and fair trade practices
                      • Partners with democratically-run farmer co-ops in 40+ countries
                      • Sells fair trade coffee, chocolate, nuts, dried fruit, and olive oil

                      Where to find Equal Exchange? 

                      One of my favorite teas of all time (not just from Equal Exchange) is their organic rooibos tea.

                      Shop Equal Exchange

                      6. DAVIDsTEA—best for loose leaf blends

                      Founded in 2008 in Montréal, DAVIDsTEA is a tea and tea accessory shop and Canada’s largest tea boutique. At one point, the brand had 200+ stores with about 60 locations in the USA, but COVID-19 troubles forced them to shutter most of their storefronts. 

                      While that’s a bummer for my fellow analog living enthusiasts who like to sniff and shop their tea in person, it’s super easy (a little too easy) to do a big old tea haul online directly from DAVIDsTEA. 

                      What I like most about this shop is their wide selection of loose leaf tea blends—including black, green, oolong, white, and many herbal blends.They even sell matcha, maté, and all manner of different accessories to brew your perfect cup the way you want it—think teapots, tea cups, travel mugs, infusers, iced tea pitchers, you name it. 

                      It’s worth noting that only about 60% of DAVIDsTEA is certified organic, but the company is taking steps to improve sustainability. They’re Fair Trade certified and a member of ETP, a global membership tackling economic, ethical, and environmental issues in the tea trade. 

                      And they have other social projects of note, like financing supporting the installation of sustainable water filtration systems in Nepal and donating tea to frontline workers and educators.

                      Key Takeaways: 

                      • Huge variety of loose-leaf teas 
                      • Members of the Ethical Tea Partnership (ETP) and Fair Trade certified 
                      • Sells a big selection of brewing accessories

                      Where to find DAVIDsTEA

                      My favorite DAVIDsTEA is their Winter Earl Grey. 

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                      Why your choice of tea matters

                      A cup of tea seems pretty harmless, right? It’s just a few dried leaves in water. But the journey those leaves take to get from plantation to processing facility to your home can be a treacherous one. 

                      I’ll keep the doomsday talk to a minimum, but here’s some food for thought:

                      As I entered early adulthood, became more interested in politics, and attempted to expand my worldview beyond my own tiny borders, I learned that even my simple cup of tea was tied up in the throes of big business, environmental desolation, and capitalist exploitation.

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                      Large tea companies (including Starbucks) have been linked to plantations with human rights abuse. According to the 2022 report from the Business & Human Rights Resource Centre, employees on farms were “reprimanded or dismissed for union activity or protesting for better treatment.” SOURCE: Food Dive

                      Third-party certifications that are meant to ensure ethical working conditions aren’t always trustworthy. Per an investigation into the third-part Rainforest Alliance certification, Foreign Correspondent found workers on Sri Lankan estates were “without access to drinking water and toilets in the tea field.” The same investigation revealed “children working in vegetable gardens instead of attending school.” SOURCE: ABC News

                      Organic tea can significantly reduce environmental harm (and not just because of the pesticides). In a study on soil ecology, tea yield, and tea plan organic cultivation, converting conventional tea gardens into organic tea gardens improves soil health in several ways: pH balance optimizes; organic nutrient levels rise; beneficial enzyme activity increases; and microbial communities becomes more diverse, which is all needed to enhance the functional compounds in tea leaves. SOURCE: Frontiers

                      Consider the importance of voting with your dollar

                      I’m a big believer in voting with your dollar. When the world is spiraling out of control, simply reading about politics kills your soul, and it feels like you’ll never be able to effect change in a society caught in the dirty clutches of billionaires and AI, look to the money. 

                      I think it’s (unfortunately) pretty obvious to most of us that money is power—which is why I think twice about who I give my money to. 

                      For example, rather than letting my love of reading contribute to Jeff Bezos’s increasing wealth, I support local, independent bookstores and ethical online bookstores with these 5 Amazon Alternatives for Books. 

                      (Also: long live the library.)

                      Ultimately, voting with your dollar is what the Loner Mindset is all about: bucking trends, choosing intention over convenience, and not letting the algorithms decide what you bring into your home.

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                      Opting for ethical tea companies instead of mainstream brands like Lipton or Bigelow is another way I can use my money (even if it’s as little as $7) to stand up for what I believe in: fair labor, environmental sustainability, and socially responsible business practices. 

                      Yes, sometimes organic, fair trade tea is a little bit more expensive than the cheaper brands. But I would rather drink one high-quality, ethically-sourced cup of tea than mindlessly consume five plastic-wrapped tea bags from a company that exploits the Earth and their workers.

                      Ultimately, voting with your dollar is what the Loner Mindset is all about: bucking trends, choosing intention over convenience, and not letting the algorithms decide what you bring into your home.

                      Conclusion: Into tea? Prioritize brands that do right by you, their workers, and the environment

                      Any tea fiend will tell you that a warm pot of tea is more than a beverage. It’s the gentle friend of difficult mornings, the balm for aching throats and breaking hearts, and the cozy companion for rainy days and quiet nights. 

                      Some people really suffer to give us these special moments, though. 

                      The tea industry is wrought with exploitative labor conditions and nefarious business practices that take advantage of workers and our precious Earth. Sadly, ethical shopping can sometimes get a bad rap as overly expensive and overly righteous—but that doesn’t help anybody. 

                      There’s no need to feel guilty or pressure yourself to overhaul your entire pantry this afternoon. Just start small. One box of tea means a few more dollars funding sustainable farming, clean water access, or workers co-ops—and fewer dollars inflating Amazon’s shareholders’ pockets. 

                      And bag by bag, cup by cup, we fund the better world we wish to see.

                      Next Steps:

                      Find more ways to shop more ethically. For my fellow bookworms, I encourage you to explore 5 Amazon Alternatives to Books, so we can enjoy reading without funding Amazon and unfair labor conditions.  

                      Curb the itch to consume, altogether. Read How to Stop Wanting Things for a mindset shift that’s helped me crave less and live more.

                      Expand your tea palate. In this 3,000-word guide, I help the tea curious understand the tea spectrum and find new flavors to enjoy: How to Start Drinking Tea. 

                      Ethical Tea Companies: Common FAQs

                      What makes a tea company “ethical”?

                      “Ethical” is, of course, a subjective term, but ethical tea companies generally have three things in common: 1) They treat workers fairly; 2) They minimize their environmental impact; 3) They contribute to social and environmental progress. One way to gauge a tea company’s ethics is to look for third-party certifications, like USDA organic, Fair Trade, and Fair for Life.

                      Are ethical teas more expensive?

                      Ethical teas can be more expensive than mainstream or store-brand teas—but not always. For example, Pukka Herbs, Yogi Tea, and Numi Tea are all easily accessible ethical tea brands you can find at Target. Other companies like Traditional Medicinals have a rewards program where you earn Plant Power Points and discounts every time you shop, which can help bring the price down.

                      Can I still get fast shipping from ethical brands?

                      Yes! These days, it’s quite easy to get quick shipping from ethical brands (Amazon isn’t the only company who offers free shipping!).

                      What are the healthiest tea brands?

                      As a general rule of thumb, tea is a healthy drink with numerous studies pointing to reduced inflammation, better heart health, and even cancer prevention, largely due to the high antioxidant levels in tea. So no matter what kind of tea you drink, you’re likely already on the path to better health. For the healthiest tea brands (note: I am not a doctor and this is not health advice), I’m personally a fan of brands that put the focus on herbal infusions, like Traditional Medicinals, Yogi Tea, or Pukka Herbs.

                      What are some brands of bagged tea that tea lovers recommend?

                      Diehard tea lovers like myself often look beyond the supermarket staples like Lipton or Bigelow for tea brands that offer organic ingredients and more varied flavor and herbal varieties. My personal favorites are Traditional Medicinals, Yogi Tea, or Pukka Herbs.

                      Discover how the merry loner lifestyle makes life more enjoyable:

                      LONER MINDSET: fresh perspectives on learning to genuinely enjoy your own company

                      BOOKS: reading lists for people who love being alone with a good story

                      ANALOG LIVING: inspiration to step back from the screen and live a life offline

                      SOLO TRAVEL: guides on where to go and how to enjoy it alone

                      MINDFUL CONSUMPTION: vetted recommendations for a simpler, less wasteful life

                      LONER Q&As: interviews from global voices on how to live a meaningful, enjoyable life

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                      Merry is the blogger behind A Merry Loner, a full-time freelance writer, and a lifelong bookworm. Since kindergarten, it was her dream to become a novelist. (She likes to think she's headed in the right direction.) Born and raised in Rhode Island, where she earned a triple-major BA in writing, communication, and French from the University of Rhode Island, she moved to Toulouse, France after the pandemic to complete a master's in creative writing at Univeristé Toulouse Jean — Jaurès. She now lives in Paris with husband.

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